Accentuate the positive

Did your grandmother sing that song by Bing Crosby. Probably not, but it’s one of my go to feel good songs. (I’ve posted it below)

You may have heard the phrase, “Attitude is a small thing that makes a BIG difference.” How simple and true. As you probably know, in nature there is the “Law of Attraction.” The law of attraction says, “That which is like unto itself is attracted.” This is similar to the phrase “Birds of a feather flock together.”

When this law is applied to human actions and intentions, it tells us that is we think about what we want – if we keep focused on our positive intentions- then we will attract them. If we focus on what we don’t want or don’t have, we will attact that.

Far too often, people focus on what they don’t want. By focusing on what we don’t want, we are attracting it. Instead of saying, “I don’t want that to have that happen again.” State what you do want to happen.

Do you know someone who is never satisfied with things the way they turn out, or they can always think of how something could have turned out better. This is the type of person who if they won the lottery would say, “Yes, but I only got $3,000,000 instead of the whole amount because of taxes.” “Just think of how my life would have been different if I had won five years ago.” “Now, I bet I’ll get all kind of calls from people wanting money.” Do you know someone like that? Maybe you’re a bit like that yourself?

As you make positive changes in your life, it is important to surround your thoughts and yourself with positive things and people.

Negativity is like a contagious disease. When negative people are around us, we either become negative, depressed, or at least we lose our enthusiasm for what we are doing. Think of a time in a group when someone came in depressed, angry, or sad, didn’t it affect everyone else in the group? Saturday Night live used to have a character named Debbie Downer. Debbie Downer could turn some of the happiest times into bleak memories of a horrible event.

Most of us can name at least one person we know will hesitate to give our good news because they will invariably put a negative spin on it. You know, you tell a friend about your new job and she says, “Why would you want to work there? I’d never work for them.” Or maybe you tell a relative that you are returning to school and he says, “You’ll never finish.” “Don’t you feel like you are too old.” “So, how many times does this make?” The examples are endless.

Some people feel so bad about themselves that they don’t know how to feel good for others, and other people just think they feel better when they aren’t so positive. The Law of Attraction always works. If your thoughts are negative, if the people you know are negative, if you tell yourself negative messages, STOP NOW. Accentuate the positive and you will begin to see positive things happen.

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